In my personal opinion Sorry and Thanks are actually two really important words that can save many damages from happening to any relationships and can also repair damages that have already been caused. This was the basic principle that I live in or at least lived in until today. A strange thing was going on in my friends circle for the past week which really bothered me. So, here I am ranting about it since, I have no other way of releasing my stress.
"No Thanks Or Sorry Between Friends" Does this phrase sound familiar? That phrase is exactly what has been bothering me. Okay So, Today my friends and I were just fooling around. A normal day. I accidentally kicked my friend in her ankle. So, as a natural instinct I said "Sorry, I didn't do it on purpose!" and she replied "Nah Its okay. No thanks and sorry between friends okay?." I was like "Yea alright cool." Later on that day, There was another incident and I once again used the phrase "Sorry" and one of my friends was like "Eww! Stop asking sorry" I was like what the hell? All I asked was a sorry I don't see anything so Eww in it. But somehow all my friends did and they started acting weird. As if I did a crime that was unforgivable. That's the story. Now, Reasons why I am angry about the whole situation:
- I am used to using the words Sorry and Thank you in my daily life. So, you don't just expect me to stop doing it in a minute just because you asked me to do so.
- I don't see anything to be Eww at all about the situation. I mean all I said was sorry. What is so ew in that?
Okay, so sorry and thanks are two words which are very much necessary in any relationship as those are the words which make the relationship withstand for a long time. I know that you tell me not to say sorry or thanks because you think we have reached that level of understanding but honestly my friend, Without those words our friendship wouldn't last even for a week. You ask me why sorry and thanks are words I use very frequently? Because I care about our friendship more than my ego. You guys casually say that sorry and thanks are not needed and when I do say those words you treat me as if I am from another planet or something, But if you actually think about it sorry and thank you are one of the most magical words in the dictionary. Those two words alone save a lot of damage from taking place. Lets say your friend went through a lot of trouble in getting a gift for you and you didn't say thank you because of your "policy" and your friend ends up getting hurt thinking that the present wasn't good enough and you put on a fight with him/her and somehow patch up without using the word sorry. Somewhere inside your friend a sorry would have made it better. So, what I am trying to say over and over again through different combinations of the same words is that sorry and thanks you are extremely necessary and that they aren't a formality just an etiquette. One more thing when you are with a group of people and a person has a different opinion on the matter. Don't treat them different! Its a free country! People have the right to express their opinions you don't have to be not nice to them just because your view of things is different from theirs. What you should be doing is respect them for standing up for what they believe despite of the fact if it is wrong or right.
That's it with my rant... I don't know (people who are still reading this stupid thing written by a 14 year old) if what I did was right or wrong but what I do know is according to me saying sorry was a right thing and so, I am not going to go against it. So, people stand up for what you believe in or what you think is right even if it is wrong. Because if not you then who? If not now. Then when?
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